tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7105917.post112439656916652510..comments2023-09-28T11:03:34.448-05:00Comments on Woman of the Law: more about what's nextUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7105917.post-1124426405996558682005-08-18T23:40:00.000-05:002005-08-18T23:40:00.000-05:00Aw!! don't want to be married! don't want to have...Aw!! don't want to be married! don't want to have kids. you can have so much in life without it. I think. <BR/><BR/>i am 32. i was married. not anymore. i have kids. 2 daughters. i love them dearly, that is true, but if it doesn't work for you ... if things don't conspire to make it PERFECT ... don't fret! It's hard to have kids. it's hard to make things work. and if you force it, if you push it -- and can't keep walking that tightrope, it's even harder. <BR/><BR/>I know there's a drive. I know there's a PUSH to have kids ... who else will be there when you're old? who else can you give all your stuff to in a Will? Who else can you love unconditionally?<BR/><BR/>But I think you can! I think you should not stress. I think you should make your life rich -- with friends -- with family. Cousins, neices, nephews. And then ... kind of chill on the kids/marriage front. <BR/><BR/>AND!!! I have recently sat in on many single parent adoptions while working for a Family Court Judge. Every single parent who adopted a child was a female lawyer.Zuskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10209172715515087916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7105917.post-1124413798194222762005-08-18T20:09:00.000-05:002005-08-18T20:09:00.000-05:00Wow...it's good to know I'm not the only person in...Wow...it's good to know I'm not the only person in the world that worries about things like this.<BR/><BR/>When I was in high school I imagined that I'd be married with kids, and own a fancy house by the time I turned 23 years-old (Don't ask me why 23...just seemed like a good number at the time).<BR/><BR/>The reality? I turned 30 last year, I don't own any property, and I'm not anywhere NEAR getting married or having kids....and surprisingly enough, I'm still alive (regardless of all the retarded things I've done)and not totally unhappy with where I am now. <BR/><BR/>Go where you'll have a good support system (sounds like your friends fit the bill) and a place you wouldn't absolutely hate living in...even if you hate living there, maybe your friends will make it easier to handle. The great thing is nothing is set in stone!<BR/><BR/>When it comes to kids and marriage be careful about setting age limits. It can happen when you least expect it...well the kids can be expected but I'm talking about meeting someone that turns into more than a friend and from more than a friend into a person you can imagine being with...for a very long time.<BR/><BR/>I don't know, I realize I'm not really helping you at all here...maybe I'm just trying to convince myself that it all works out in the end.<BR/><BR/>I just wanted you to know that people out here are listening and understand your frustration.Sanchohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09686004050555359974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7105917.post-1124406987448672872005-08-18T18:16:00.000-05:002005-08-18T18:16:00.000-05:00Girl! And I'm the one to hook you up with that pr...Girl! And I'm the one to hook you up with that prozac drip! Would you prefer a continuous drip or would you prefer bolus injections as needed? No seriously, at least we're in the same world. I wanted kids by 30, too, but you know what? ... sometimes it just doesn't happen that way. Now I'm 32 and looking to get married the SECOND time. A divorcee on marriage two... not what I planned. Carpe diem, baby, seize the day... seize today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com